THE DREADED F WORD

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THE DREADED F WORD

6 WAYS TO BREAK THE FEAR CYCLE AND MOVE FORWARD

 

So you’ve determined that fear is in your way.  And you know this because… 
 

You want a new job.
You’ve been talking a lot about working out and getting in shape.
You’re still holding on to your burning desire to start a photography business.


Yet you’re stuck doing the same ‘ole things.



It’s hard to change habits. 


If you’re anything like me, you’ve tried to change your thoughts, to stop procrastinating, to take action. It lasts a few days, maybe a week or two if you’re lucky, and then you’re back to your old ways, the old patterns. Like clockwork.

 

Well, that’s fear for you. So predictable.
 

And it will remain your default setting unless you do something about it. 


Guess what? Now is the time to do something about it.

 

6 steps to break the fear cycle and move forward.   

 

1. Acknowledge it.
It’s holding you back from something.


2. Notice it.
It might show up as:

  • Procrastination

  • Perfectionism

  • Negative self-talk
     

3. Separate from it.

  • What does it look like?

  • What's its name?

  • What does it sound like?

 
4. Talk to it.

  • What is it trying to protect you from?

  • What’s the worse that will happen if you listen to it?

  • What’s the worse that will happen if you don’t listen to it?


5. Thank it.

  • Appreciate that it’s trying to protect you.

  • Most of the time, you don’t need its help.

  • Come right out and tell your fear you’ve got it covered.  

 

If I left you with these five steps, you’d probably be able to move forward, maybe even get that new job or lose five pounds.


But I’d be leaving out a critical step. 

 

If you don’t lean into your fears and face them head on, they’ll come back as strong or stronger than before.  

 How do you lean into your fears?

  • Look at your old beliefs. Where did the fear originate?
  • Notice where the fear shows up in your body.
  • Breathe through the urge to run and bolt the other way.

 

This is not easy. This is scary. But this, my friend, is the good stuff. The worthwhile stuff.

Fear will continue to return in full force until you allow yourself to stand up to your fears and look them in the eye. A good coach can help with this step.
 

And know this: 

You are not your fear. Your fear is not you.

It is separate from your inner being, your wisdom, your guidance, your truth.

 

This process takes time. Continue practicing.

 

Learn to respect it. Create boundaries around it. Get curious, seek answers. Hold it at a distance, allowing your heart to trump it every time (unless you’re being chased by a bear).

Then run like hell!