I HAD BEEN AWAITING THE PACKAGE ALL WEEK.
The supple, brown-leather Frye boots that I saved months to purchase.
The boots that would rock my world.
Each day, I hurried home from work hoping to see the Kraft paper-wrap sticking out of my mailbox.
Maybe today. Nope.
I was obviously disappointed.
The thought of waiting one more day killed me. I had no immediate occasion to wear them. I just wanted them.
Finally, I arrived home to see the UPS package at my door.
I ripped open the box and glared at the boots. They were perfect. I put them on. I strutted around the kitchen and into the living room. I turned up the music and danced, listening as the boot heels tapped out a beat on our hardwood floors.
Then something happened. I took them off and put them in the closet.
The thrill was over. Gone.
I wanted another package.
What I realized at that moment was that my happiness wasn’t about walking around in those brown leather Frye boots.
IT WAS ABOUT WAITING FOR THEM.
According to Robert Sapolsky, neuroscientist, dopamine, sometimes referred to as the “feel good drug” is not released when the brain receives a reward, but actually released in anticipation of a reward.
I pondered this for a while. Thought about my kids at Christmas. How they’d somberly disappear into their rooms after they opened their gifts, or that trip to the Bahamas. The vacation I was convinced would provide me with enough relaxation to last a lifetime and yet I returned home wondering when I’d be able to rest.
SO WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?
To reach your financial goal and be free to spend more time with your family
To be considered a success in your dream profession
To discover the secret to a life of ease and flow
Maybe you’re not exactly where you want to be. But here’s my suggestion for you.
Skydive into it.
Pop the chute.
But most of all, savor the anticipation.