It seems like everyone I talk to these days is overwhelmed with December obligations.

What happened to this magical month? Why has it turned into dread mixed with hustle and a splash of bustle? Instead of peace, sugar plums (what are these anyway?) and snowflakes, all we see is craziness.


If you’re feeling less than excited about the upcoming weeks, there’s still hope.


You may not be able to stop events from happening, but below are 5 tips that will help you manage overwhelm so that you can enjoy the holiday season again!


1. Breathe.

Find 30 seconds twice a day to notice yourself breathing. You can do this while you’re driving (keep your hands on the wheel), waiting in line at the grocery store or walking down the street. You can go all out and use a special technique (there are many options) or choose the more realistic approach and take one or two deep breaths. The end.


2. Get clear.

Get clear on what you have to do. Sometimes just thinking about everything you have to do is overwhelming. Write it down and see it in front of you. Can you make a list of everything that has to do be done and then give it a realistic timeline?


It’s impossible to do it all and do it all well. So, make a decision. 

  • What can you let go of?

  • What can you delegate? Meaning what can you be OK with someone else doing for you (even if it’s not the way you’d do it).

  • What’s really important to you?


3.  Change your mindset.

My favorite overwhelm quote from Jen Sincero is helpful in remembering who’s in charge of how you feel this month (you are).

“Overwhelm is when you make the unhelpful decision to stop breathing, lose perspective and forget you’re in control of life.” -Jen Sincero

 Take back control of this month. You, my friend, are in charge. If you want to feel pissed off at the sales clerk at Dick’s Sporting Goods because you’re pretty sure he smoked a joint this morning and he’s working in slow motion, go for it. If you want to feel energized and blast your favorite holiday tune from the car windows (with the heat on for some of us), by all means do it!

Take a moment and think about how you want to feel this month and feel it.


4. Put yourself first.  

I know, I know...there’s no time for this but really… it’s non-negotiable. The holidays can get to us, emotionally and physically. Take time to do what you need to do to recharge and restore. Some ideas:

  • Take a warm bath with a gingerbread scented candle.

  • Sit on the couch for twenty minutes doing anything YOU want.

  • Listen to your favorite holiday music.

  • Do something creative!

5. Gratitude.

I know I talk gratitude often, but it works. When I start perseverating over little things and find myself distracted with the shit I have to do, I gently remind myself to return to the moment and stay grateful. Head on over here, to read about my favorite gratitude journal.


What can you do right now to make this holiday season magical again? Please comment below and share or drop me an email!